Turning 40 Is Nothing To Fear.

40 is one of those birthdays that movies are made about, the ones where all the women are depressed and the men go through some strange mid life crisis. It’s the birthday that you spend drinking wine and feeling terrible that you are 40, thinking your life is now over and it’s all down hill from here, that’s if you are to believe the movies. I turned 40 on Thursday and to be honest I don’t feel any different at all, maybe a little more drive to get into gear and start doing some of the many things on my wish list but more about that in a few minutes. Turning 40 so far for me has been nothing to fear turning 35 was way worse. I found turning 35 really hard and I don’t really know why but it took me ages to get over it.

Turning 40 hasn’t had that effect at all or even anything remotely like what we see in the movies. I have been thinking for a while now about turning 40, how I think it will feel, what I think I should do now, If my life should change or if it’s all over now if I haven’t made it now I never will and I came to some conclusions.

40 is not at all scary in fact its a great number to start taking your life back a little. It’s a good solid age to start some new things, It’s a good age to start to look after yourself a little better than you have for the first 40 and it’s a good age to stop being part of the herd and to finally just be who you want to be.

So for me I plan on challenging myself each year to try some travel if it can at all be done and I know this won’t always be possibly as life will get in the way but its time to start on my travel bucket list and the first one for me is Iceland, Halloween holidays next year. So I will take this full year to save to go and that will be the first on my bucket list ticked off. The second thing I am wanting to do for my 40th year is get fairly good with my camera’s, so for me that means finishing my photography diploma, I am going to join my local camera club and for my 40th I have bought myself an Olympus Pen e-PL 8 in brown. The next thing I would like to do but this is a big ask is to be able to get myself a MacBook pro to write my blog on, edit all my eventually wonderful photos on and write each month for Life Plus magazine. The last thing I want to start for my 40th year is to get a little more active when I can.

So that’s my plans for the coming year nothing huge but a few little bits I want to do that are just for me, not for my husband, the farmer who let me tell you is totally spoiling me this weekend, not for my kids who have also spoilt me this weekend, not for my mum who I care for and not for work, the farm or the riding centre, it is all just for me and only I can make it happen.

So if you are turning 40 don’t fear it just get your ass organised, maker some plans for the year ahead and do some of the things you have always wanted to do.

40 is fabulous.


August Break Day 2: Gold

Last week we ran out of milk and had none from breakfast so I went to one of our local supermarkets, they were giving out free bunches of flowers to everyone doing their shopping, it brightened my morning and my kitchen, over a week later and they are still going strong. Their golden colours brighten my kitchen on grey summer days like today.

The Power Of Three.

One question I am away’s asked is ” How do you manage to fit in everything you have to do in a day?” and up until a few months ago I wonder as well how I managed it. I do know that a lot of things were missed on and I was constantly chasing my tail in a state of constant stress about what I had to do and beating myself up about stuff that was forgotten or just not done. I wasn’t as organised as I am now and I had no direction from week to week.

That was when I started to look at Slow living a lot more and I came across planning your day into three’s. Now this might not work for everyone but it has been a huge help to me and I actually get so much more done now than I ever have. I am not beating myself up anymore that I haven’t reached on my to do list for the day/week and I am not stressed about how much I have to do, so I wanted to share it with you as well.

At the start of my week, normally Monday morning at breakfast I take a few minutes to see what really needs to be done that week, the things that just can’t be put off and I pick three as my main todo’s for the week. If there is more than three that could be done I add them to the list in case I get the three main ones done and have some time to do more.

So for example for me this week my main three are : order a skip , cut the grass and sort college for Liam. These are my main three but then I have six others on the list if I have time to get them done then it’s a bonus this week and if not at least the main three are done. I do the same when I am in work so I will have a list for work and for home.

I then break each day down into three’s as well, so say today my three is pony camp, moving calves and going to the bank on top of my ususal housework, dinner making jobs. I will be delighted to get these all done but I also have extras on the list if I get to them and if I don’t I will be happy with getting my three done. This system for me has been a life saver and has taken all the stress and pressure out of my day because I am always getting my three done and that’s such a good feeling, it also makes me more organised so I nearly always get all the extras on the list done. As well I have found if I have reached my three at lunch time I don’t feel guilty anymore heading off with Sid somewhere in the afternoon because I have reached my set goal for the day.

Three things a week and three things a day is also a very reachable goal for anyone, setting yourself three goals a day you are getting 18 little jobs done in six days on top of your general day to day which is a lot of extra done a week. I have found it a total life saver and I am on top of all my jobs which were just piling up on me because now I have been slowly chipping away at them with no pressure. Now there will be times when you might have to change your three a day half way through the week, maybe you or a little person in your house is sick or you have visitors or just life in general gets in the way. When this happens me I still stick to my three main things for the week but am freer with my three for the day.

The power of three is so good, I have no stress now at the start of the week about all that has to be done and none of that feeling you get when you set yourself a target and don’t meet it which is great. It motivates me to do more each week with no pressure because if I only reach my three I am happy its not 23 things I have to do.

I hope you try it and find it as helpful as I have ! if you do try it let me know how you get on. 

What I Learned This Week.

  • I learned yesterday how to to take moody photos like the one of Sid above.
  • I learned that its really nice to meet people you know for years online off line.
  • That I have an idea for something floating around in my head for a while and maybe I should start seeing can I get it into action.
  • I learned that if you work hard enough anything is possible after a really nice email from my editor.
  • I learned that the only way to stop having to go everyday to the shop is to do a really good weekly food shop, only had to go for milk and read once this week.
  • I had thought all my hormonal issues were easing up the last few months but no it hit with force again this month.
  • I learned that the only way I can have a productive week is to use my planning by three.
  • I also learned that even when I have it all planned and have the best intentions there are times when I just won’t get it all done.
  • That we need to just stop and make the most of time when we are off from work, myself and Sid decided on Wednesday to just head to the beach and we had a great time.
  • That I would read a lot of books if I didn’t have to work.

What did you learn this week?

What I Learned This Week.

  • There is no place like home.
  • That all those little things that bug you about your home can start to be sorted when you don’t have to go to work 5 days a week.
  • That it was very hard to work 34 days straight with only an hour or two on a Sunday afternoon off.
  • That you will work harder at home and do longer hours but it’s so nice.
  • That M&S do the most comfy bras I have ever worn.
  • That I miss blogging everyday and might just start again next week 

What have you learned this week ? 

Goodbye Snapchat , Hello Periscope.

While I was at the Blogger conference in The Marker hotel last Sunday there was a lot of talk about Periscope and Snapchat and how one is more for grown ups and this made me curious about the two apps. So me being me I had to try out one because I was already using the other.

About probably five months ago or maybe more I decided I would download Snapchat and see what all the talk was about , at the same time I also found Periscope in the app store but it didn’t appeal to me as much how wrong was I. I should have know when the middle little farmer told me I was to old to be on Snapchat that I should just have gone with Periscope but after his comment I was just more determined to try this whole Snapchat thing and off I went.

What I liked about it at the start was that so many of my favorite bloggers were also using it and I was able to get a sneak peak into their day , I got to see some great Irish bloggers go to events and tell us all about products they had gotten. I watched people eat their breakfasts and chat about their day but all the time I was feeling like my middle farmer told me a little old to be here.

I tried to Snap as much as I could but as you guys know internet reception in 90% of this country is not good enough to Snap and the ten second video kept catching me out mid sentence so over the last few weeks I have started to use it less and less and over the last two weeks I have really only been watching the Snaps of the people I follow and not posting any of my own.

Snapchat is great don’t get me wrong , bloggers are using it really well along side their blogs and it has some great features like photo , the option to delete what you don’t like and some very pretty filters but at 38yrs old I am to old I think for Snapchat the middle little farmer was right ( but don’t anyone tell him that ) that it is not the place for me  .

Then the Blogger conference was on and there was talk of Periscope and how it was more for grown ups than Snapchat. I went back there and then and downloaded the app to my phone and have spent the last week giving it a good trial run. I was off from school for two days this week so it was the perfect time to give it a fair trial. On Tuesday I scoped ( that’s what they call taking your videos) my whole day in parts and got at times 14 live viewers , this is where Periscope is way cooler than Snapchat , it is live ! . As you are recording your video people all around the world can watch and interact with you in real time. Like Snapchat there is also a replay option which lets people come back over the following 24hrs and re watch your scope.

While you are scoping if your viewers or replay viewers double tap the screen they can send you love hearts to show they are enjoying your scope. While I am really loving Periscope I do agree it is more for the grown ups than snapchat because on Snapchat you have to go and look for people to follow you need to know their Snapchat name on Periscope you don’t you just go into your globe button and you can watch complete strangers from all over the world. There are many weird and wonderful people on Periscope and this week I have found porn , religion , many totally crazy people , some that are just plain creepy and also some amazing bloggers who are totally using this to grow their brand .

While I am very new to Periscope now I already know I won’t be using Snapchat nearly as much , I won’t delete it off my phone but I think Periscope is going to be huge after a while.

What do you guys like the most Snapchat or Periscope ? leave your names in the comments and I will go follow you guys. I have two more posts I still want to do on this over the next few days one from a bloggers point of view and one from a Mothers .

You will find me here on Periscope please do follow and join me on my live scopes 🙂 @mybusycountrylife

Elaine x .

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My woolly girls . 

  I don’t get to visit my girls as much as I would like so when the chance to do their evening check came my way last week I didn’t say no . These are our main women , some of them are the first ewes we got over five years ago and are still going strong .

I love the peace you get walking through them in the field as they munch on the green grass . They are a very peaceful animal and I like to take my time and pick out all the familiar faces that you get to know over the years .

These girls are all due to lamb , fingers and toes crossed at the start of March and all are fit and well so far . This is probably one of my happy places , in a field with my girls and not being in a rush to get somewhere else .

One of my women was very interested in what this mad woman with the camera was doing and decided to eat her grass near me  .

Hope you enjoy the clips , leave a comment and let me know what one of your happy places is ? mine I think nearly all involve an animal nearly .

Elaine x .